The Divine Feminine and Sacred Masculine are two concepts that belong together. They are like the yin and yang not only in a relationship, but also within ourselves. They work together by their attraction and activation of polar energies, which together form a union of one new energy in and of itself. It is here that expansion of consciousness, healing and energy upgrades happen.
By healing the wounded feminine and wounded masculine within, we not only shift our experiences in relationships but also with every interaction we have in the world.
Whereas the feminine is the free flowing, receiving and creative energy, the masculine is the outgoing and action based energy, giving a container for the free form feminine.
Despite noticing and activating these energies within us in relationships, we also have this play between feminine and masculine within ourselves.
The first meeting of feminine and masculine energies is at each energy crossing point in the body, in the 7 main chakras. At each chakra an energy vortex is created by meeting of the two energy streams Ida and Pingala, which go up along and through the spine like two intertwining snakes. Each meeting of the snakes creates an energetic whirlpool which creates the chakra (Sanskrit for ‚wheel‘). Ida is the feminine Moon energy within us, the receptive and flowing energy. Pingala is the masculine Sun energy within, the active and outgoing energy.
The second meeting of the Divine Feminine and Sacred Masculine within us is through the meeting of polar energies between our chakras. Each of the chakras is either pre-dominantly feminine or predominantly masculine, alternating each other, so that one chakra always has an energetic pull on the following chakra.
The third meeting is the meeting of two polar energies of our chakras when being with a partner. Each chakra in a men that is predominantly yang, is predominantly yin in a women, which creates the attraction!
If one of the chakras inherits a wounded feminine or wounded masculine energy, it will display through the partner. Each partner is a mirror to our light as well as our shadows, and by the attraction of polar energies in the chakras, deeper levels of our subconscious mind get activated and pull up unhealed issue to the surface.
What is the Wounded Feminine vs. the Empowered Feminine Energy?
The wounded feminine is looking for someone to safe her. It´s the inner child looking for help, the needy part of self that easily gets attached for lack of motivation to take charge of her situation. It also stems from a lack of acknowledging uncomfortable emotions that she tries to cover up by reaching outwards.
The empowered feminine however is the one that is allowing herself to be seen, to share her true emotions, and to receive that which she needs, while stepping away from that which does not align with it. She makes self-care and self-love a priority and takes care of needs and wants.
The unhealed feminine energy shows up as a feeling of not being good enough and not feeling loved. It also turns into a form of waiting: Waiting for the perfect partner to show up, waiting for the existing partner to make a move or to better himself, when he actually doesn´t match her true needs, or waiting for him to commit, which often leads to frustration, worry and self-doubt.
The empowered feminine is based on trust. She is trusting that things will work out in her favor, focusses on herself and fills up her own cup independently from the partner.
What is the Wounded Masculine vs. the Empowered Masculine Energy?
A wounded masculine energy displays through manipulation, being aggressive (including passive aggressive), bullying, narcissistic behavior and pushing to get their own way, without respecting the other person’s needs nor boundaries.
Empowered masculine energy, however, is the mind in action through planning, foresight, inspired action, following through and taking charge of situations as they show up, including taking responsibility if mistakes have been made.
If anger, blame and trying to force an outcome are your modus opperandi, trying to push things forward or manipulate the partner to do specific things for you (and only accept him/her if that is to be done) you are still in your wounded masculine energy.
Stepping into the empowered masculine energy then means coming back to yourself and your own life, as well as owning your own short comings vs focussing only on the short comings of the other.
How to Heal the Wounded Masculine and Wounded Feminine
Just to clarify this here, the term wounded masculine and wounded feminine do not only refer to either men or women, but both wounded energies can be present within us. Just as we have yin/yang opposite chakras within us and two polar energy streams that create the chakras and govern our diverse moods and behaviors, so we also have the wounded feminine and wounded masculine energies within.
Depending on what needs to be healed, it can be either one or the other of the two wounded energies that shows up when triggered through a partner.
To heal any of the issues that might show up, is first to acknowledge that there is a wounded part wanted to be recognized. Loving awareness of the different parts of slef leads to integration and union within. And from union within comes union without.
The more clear you get on what it is that is triggering you, what type of wounded you carry and what emotions are related to it, the easier it is to embrace and therefore transformation takes place.
Once it is integrated and transformed, you will notice the shifts by the people you now attract and by the different response you will give from a place of empowerment and a deeper knowing of yourself, your needs, your boundaries and your ideal qualities in a partner.
~ Anne Haack